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This episode we’re excited to be responding to a highly relatable listener question.

Justin Hensley (@EBMgoneWILD) asked us: “How does one take a compliment? In COVID times we get a lot of “thank you for your service” but even regularly I suck at taking them. Is it an upbringing thing?”

So we’re pulling it apart in the two shrinks way with a chat about why it’s so hard, what issues can be underlying this & how on earth you’re supposed to accept a compliment graciously.

To wrap up, it’s things we came across focused on insults - hear which musician gets enough negative press to have a whole research paper written about him and try out some medieval insults.

Articles:

Imposter syndrome: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5869760/

A conceptual model of compliments: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/344508037_New_perspectives_on_the_praise_literature_towards_a_conceptual_model_of_compliment

Self-esteem: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0022103116302943

Backhanded compliments: https://www.hbs.edu/faculty/Publication%20Files/18-082_f96a8202-ccfe-409b-a8ba-0f187bf678e4.pdf

Culture: https://benjamins.com/catalog/lic.17.1.06mir/fulltext/lic.17.1.06mir.pdf and
https://www.semanticscholar.org/paper/Thanks!-You-look-rather-dashing-yourself.-%3A-A-of-Melin/edf4b2a346016b846e69850eeba85e4a3c1e3dbf

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Insulting James Blunt: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0271530920300884

Medieval insult generator: https://fungenerators.com/random/insult/medieval-insult/

Ever find yourself getting anxious about talking to new people, avoiding speaking in work meetings or overanalysing something you’ve said? Then this episode is for you. We chat about practical ways to start to work on social anxiety - calming yourself, challenging your thoughts and experimenting with new skills.

To wrap up the show Amy has a bone to pick with critics of cryving (driving while crying) and Hunter rhapsodised over the appeal of simple desserts.